Growing up, I didn’t know how to be happy; or for that matter, what happiness was. My first wife passed away at age 35 from an accidental overdose (after 14-years of prescription drug addiction), leaving me with an 8-month old baby and a 12-year son to raise. I was pissed! I was Angry at her. I was Angry at God. I was Angry at everyone and everything!
When I met my third wife, seven years and a second marriage later, I was still very angry, unhappy, stressed-out, and full of resentment!
Today I see Angry Guys acting like A*Holes and justifying their behavior by saying “that’s just the way I am.” I wrote this book to help them understand that being an A*Hole is not a life sentence! They are not doomed to living an angry and unhappy life.
Happiness is an inside-out do-it-for-yourself process!
They have the power to take responsibility for their own life and change it for the better...but they have to quit doing what they’ve always done.
Truly I am not special. I’m not a doctor or psychologist. I’m just an Angry Guy who got tired of being an A*Hole...tired of people avoiding me... tired of hurting them and causing them pain! I got tired of the pain and the emptiness inside me. So, I woke up. If I can do it, I bet that you/they can do it too! It’s not rocket science — it’s a choice!
From an early age, I was interested in what makes people tick, what motivates and inspires them, and how to optimize health and performance — I wanted to win and be the best.
Through extensive independent study, research, observation and life experience (pain and suffering)— along with a lot of support and guidance from life coaches, spiritual teachers, and my third wife, Valynda, I discovered that I didn’t need to be a victim “unless of course I chose to be.”
As I awakened to that possibility, I began to take responsibility for my own happiness, and started living my life through choice and on purpose.
To this day, I am a student of people, personality, personal growth and spiritual development. Unexpectedly, I came to understand — just as Hans Selye, MD (the Father of Stress Research concluded after 20-years of research) that stress is the cause of all life’s challenges.
In my own life, I literally saw my mother (since I was 7-years old), and my first wife destroy themselves with worry, fear, anxiety, and the “wonders of modern medicine.” After my first wife’s passing, I knew there had to be a better way, and I dedicated myself to finding it.
Now that I have found it, I am on a mission to make the world a happier, more peaceful place by awakening and transforming one stressed out Angry Guy/Gal at a time.
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.”
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
“I can’t believe it…No way. You seem so happy and easy going… are you kidding me!” are the usual responses I hear when people discover that I used to be a very angry and unhappy guy!
So how did I go from the A*Hole I used to be to the “kinder, gentler, happier” person I am now? I reached the point where the pain to stay the same was greater than the pain to change — so I changed. And although, at times, I still get a visit from my Inner A*Hole — the residual
of the bits of anger and unhappiness that I’m still working on, I now recognize it quickly, and chose to be the person I am now and that I can be, instead of the one I used to be.
This is the possibility for every angry guy — to Transform His Inner A*Hole and Live a Happier Life — if he chooses it … I’m living proof.
My hope is that the story of my journey can help you or someone you love to do the same.
Blessings and Balance,
John R. Petri wrote Transforming My Inner A-hole to help other Angry Guys understand that being an A*hole is not a “life sentence!” They are not doomed to living an angry, unhappy life! That Happiness is an inside out, do–it-to-yourself process! That they have the power to wake up and take responsibility for their own life and change it for the better.
John is not a doctor or psychologist. He's just an Angry Guy who got tired of being an Asshole. Tired of having everyone avoid him in fear, tired of the pain and the emptiness he felt inside. So, through extensive independent study, research, observation, life experience, along with a lot of support and guidance from life coaches, spiritual teachers, John woke up and did what he needed to do — and still continues to do today.